When Mary Sheldon knew her cancer diagnosis was terminal she chose to die at home.
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But that choice was also one her family had to make.
Her daughter Kath Logan and son Andrew Logan agreed to take on palliative care at home to fulfill her mother's wishes.
Ms Logan said she and her mother shared a house in Orange until her mum died, aged 72, in June.
"We talked about it early on. She was diagnosed with a very aggressive ovarian cancer in March 2018. It was always a terminal diagnosis. [But] it gave her a good year of really quality palliative care therapy," she said.
"Until the last couple of months she was up and about as normal."
She said her mum stayed active with cross-fit and dragon boating and went to Spain.
Ms Logan said it was vital to have a family conversation about providing palliative care at home as early as possible.
"We knew mum was going to die. Talking about it early is really important. [But] it's not a good time to have that conversation," she said.
It was an extraordinary experience for our family.
- Kath Logan
Ms Logan said they contacted the palliative care service team at Orange hospital to learn about the services they could offer outside the hospital.
"Records show that people who engage in palliative care early tend to live longer," she said.
Ms Logan said the team provided equipment including a shower chair, the offer of a hospital bed and medication.
They also provided staff for regular care and access to a 24/7 phone help line to speak to a nurse when they needed help.
She said the ambulance service was notified her mum was a palliative care patient so crews knew that if called they would provide care in the home and not try to resuscitate her or take her to hospital.
The family also received information about preparing for the death.
"We talked about leaving a legacy. Mum had conversations with the grandchildren and we recorded them," she said.
Ms Logan said she would recommend the service but it was not for everyone.
"I can understand why a lot of people don't die at home because it is exhausting [for the carers].
"There is an unbelievable amount of help available. It was an extraordinary experience for our family.
"Mum was very comfortable and very happy at the end. They helped mum live well and they helped mum die well."
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